Friends.
They say you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family... That's very true. I'm lucky, I wouldn't wish to change any of my family.
With friends you can choose to accept them as they are and live with their negatives to enjoy their positives...
Occasionally friends show us a side of them that we really don't need and can do without. We lose patience sometimes and the negative energy, hassle and aggrovation just needs to be removed.
This year things have changed enough for me to realise who I need and who I don't. Who I want around me and who I can let go.
Maybe the changes in my life and my mind set have left me a little less willing to put up with people that demonstrate a selfish lack of understanding and empathy, that are friends in name only and conspicuous by their absence in times of need? My view of 'friends' like these has been adjusted, accepted, and the changes to our friendship duly noted...
It also possible that my eyes are open for the first time and I can see a little more clearly. Recently I recognised the path a friend is on. A path I've discussed and shared my feelings about in as gentle a way as I could possibly find. Their rigid ideals and lack of tolerance really upset and astounded me, as did a smattering of hypocrisy, total selfishness, and their complete disrespect for my friendship. Even more concerning was the unawareness of their behaviour and the effect it was having until it was pointed out......
Normally, in the past I would let it go, let it pass. But with everything that's happened this year, where I find myself now is a place of self protection. I'm beginning to like being here, this place of self reliance where fake friends and friends that take advantage are not needed, sometimes forever, sometimes maybe just for a while.
There are positives to being outgoing and open minded. I have visited old friends and plan to see more. I've made some new friends. I hope they are good people. One in particular is growing on me :)
With friends you can choose to accept them as they are and live with their negatives to enjoy their positives...
Occasionally friends show us a side of them that we really don't need and can do without. We lose patience sometimes and the negative energy, hassle and aggrovation just needs to be removed.
This year things have changed enough for me to realise who I need and who I don't. Who I want around me and who I can let go.
Maybe the changes in my life and my mind set have left me a little less willing to put up with people that demonstrate a selfish lack of understanding and empathy, that are friends in name only and conspicuous by their absence in times of need? My view of 'friends' like these has been adjusted, accepted, and the changes to our friendship duly noted...
It also possible that my eyes are open for the first time and I can see a little more clearly. Recently I recognised the path a friend is on. A path I've discussed and shared my feelings about in as gentle a way as I could possibly find. Their rigid ideals and lack of tolerance really upset and astounded me, as did a smattering of hypocrisy, total selfishness, and their complete disrespect for my friendship. Even more concerning was the unawareness of their behaviour and the effect it was having until it was pointed out......
Normally, in the past I would let it go, let it pass. But with everything that's happened this year, where I find myself now is a place of self protection. I'm beginning to like being here, this place of self reliance where fake friends and friends that take advantage are not needed, sometimes forever, sometimes maybe just for a while.
There are positives to being outgoing and open minded. I have visited old friends and plan to see more. I've made some new friends. I hope they are good people. One in particular is growing on me :)
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